Funerals are meant to provide a proper send off to the dead, as well as provide an opportunity to the living to pay their last respects to the deceased. It also helps the friends and family of the deceased to accept the devastating loss and start the process of acceptance and healing. You can reflect the life of your loved one through funeral tributes at the memorial service.
Be mentally prepared for the task. Even if you know the deceased person well, public speaking and your grief can make the task tougher. Take time to organize your thoughts and plan what to say. If possible, write down the speech as it will guide you along.
Include some of the major stepping stones and achievements that the deceased had. Share stories and memories of the deceased person that many people who have attended the memorial service can identify with. Research about the deceased so as to find out as much about them as possible before giving your speech.
Share on how the person influenced your life. This could be by something you observed in their life or something they said to you. Be genuine and real when giving your speech. This will help you connect better with the people you are talking to.
Don't be afraid to cry or show some bit of emotion. However, do not let your emotions get so out of hand that you are unable to continue with your speech. Try and provide comfort to the deceased friend and family whether directly or indirectly through your speech.
Keep your speech short. This is because there would probably be other people waiting to give funeral tributes. You may include some bit of humor if the situation allows or if the deceased was a jovial person. Choose your words carefully and do not idolize the deceased.
