At one time, all mourners were expected to wear formal black dress, complete with hats, ties, veils and gloves. Nowadays the rules have become somewhat more relaxed due to the many cultural, religious and personal influences on burial arrangements. For times when no special requests have been made, there are guidelines for appropriate funeral attire.
Black is still the go to color and a traditional suit and basic dress remain the staple fare. The difference now is that the styling has relaxed to a more semi-formal level. This means slightly more casual yet staying with the darker colors including gray and dark blue.
For men, a full suit and tie ensemble is traditional, though the more casual slacks, sport coat and collared golf shirt combination is also acceptable. The main thing is to keep it conservative and always wear black dress shoes. Pant, jacket and tie colors should remain dark with patterns being subdued or not at all.
Women should wear conservative office style dresses, skirts or suits in the darker colors. Avoid necklines that are low, hems that are high and patterns and design elements that are flashy as these elements tend to draw attention which is inappropriate for such an occasion. Flat shoes may be substituted for heels, especially for outdoor services.
The rules for children are far less rigid. Generally speaking, their style should be an age appropriate version of what adult's clothing with boys in suits or a collared shirt and tie, and girls in dresses. Though the little ones are not expected to wear black, their colors should be dark or neutral with patterns and ruffles kept to a minimum.
The traditional basics of funeral attire are always a safe guideline though there will be times when this is not the norm. Many religions and cultural groups have their own expectations as to how mourners should dress, and personalized instructions from the deceased may also change the rules. In those situations, the special style requests should be followed as a show of final respects.
